Joel Kim Booster is getting candid about his non-monogamous ― but not polyamorous ― marriage to husband John Michael Sudsina.

Booster spoke to GQ in an interview published last week about his relationship as part of a wider discussion around body image in the LGBTQ+ community. In it, the “Scrubs” and “Fire Island” actor acknowledged he feels “more pressure” regarding his physical appearance “from being gay than I do from being an actor for sure,” adding: “I think the standards are slightly different.”

“But being gay and especially being in a non-monogamous relationship, and so primarily only interacting ... I’m not looking for love outside my relationship,” he said. “We’re not polyamorous and so the sex I’m having outside of my relationship is all recreational at this point.”

“And so when you’re primarily navigating [as someone] not dating, but just hooking up, I think it becomes even more focused on solely what you look like, than the entire package of who you are,” he continued.

Booster and Sudsina, a video game producer, were married in San Francisco in December. The pair began dating in 2021 after meeting in Mexico, where they were each traveling separately with their respective friend groups.

Noting that Sudsina “loves me for a lot of reasons other than besides what I look like, and that’s great,” he told GQ, “But when I am hooking up with a rando, it is probably going to be mostly about what I look like. And because I sleep with men, men are much more ... They’re much less forgiving about body ideals than anyone else, especially gay men.”

Booster previously opened up about his relationship while appearing on the “Who’s the A**hole? With Katya” podcast last year.

“No matter how much you like the person, if you don’t have that feeling immediately, it’s not going to come by date three. That is my belief,” he recalled at the time. “I had never felt that way about anybody else in my entire life. At least for me, I was not someone who was going to wait around and waste time trying to fall in love with someone.”

Elsewhere in his GQ chat, Booster said he’d felt more at ease with his body since tying the knot.

“It’s not that I don’t care what I look like anymore, but I have the security of knowing that someone’s going to love me no matter what I look like,” he said. “So I’m less neurotic, I think, about what I put in my body than I once was because I’m always going to stay a certain level of fit, not only for myself, but also because I want to still be attractive to my partner, but it is less of a need to be attractive for everybody now.”

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