“It is OK to call off a wedding even after you’ve already sent out the wedding invites.”

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"We argued about things we'd never seriously talked through before, and slowly it became obvious that we wanted the idea of marriage more than we were ready for the reality of it. One night, we sat across from each other and admitted the truth: she had pushed hard because she wanted the wedding she'd always imagined, and I had gone along with it because I felt pressured and didn't want to lose her. Neither of us was a bad person; we were just two people who confused love with readiness. A year later, we signed the divorce papers, and as painful as it was, I remember feeling strangely at peace. For the first time in a long time, neither of us was pretending everything was OK."