If all straight people thought like this, homophobia wouldn’t exist.

"Ugh, stress every time I take a car service as a gay woman. People think they are making polite conversation, asking if I'm married and have kids, and my mind is assessing whether I'll survive the ride if I'm not convincingly vague.

I did have a recent positive experience where the guy started giving me side-eye about people having different preferences, and it turned out he was looking for advice on making sure his daughter felt comfortable coming out. I did my service."—u/that_is_illogical

"Yeah, there are a few destinations my coworkers have said, 'You should go, it's great!' and I'm like, 'Haha, maybe!' but in my head, I know I would never set foot there because there is a non-zero chance I could end up in jail or worse."—u/Nope-5000

"That's why the L comes first. It used to be GLBT, but it was changed because of this to LGBT."—u/gayqueueandaye

"I would add that some straight women who consider themselves allies, in fact, aren't. As a bi man, I've gotten into a few weird situations dating straight women who outwardly are pro-LGBTQ+, but the fact that I wasn't straight was very hard for them to process."—u/KneeLow174

"My coworker (a gay man) really opened my eyes up to this. We were at a work conference together, and he was showing me the number of 'straight' men at our company on the hookup apps. Hell, he said he'd been with several of them every time we have a work conference.

I had always accepted the figure that the amount of LGBTQ+ people in the world was around 9%, but now I'm convinced it's double or triple that. My other clue that informed that was visiting frats in college. I walked in on some gay stuff at frats more than once that convinced me of the over 9% figure. I mean, the Kinsey Scale is probably more accurate than just 'gay' or 'straight.'"—u/FooFootheSnew

"I had my father-in-law ask about my wife and me like, 'So, like, who's the guy and who is the girl?' The best I could do was explain from an example I'd heard of before. He and his wife are a knife and fork, and my wife and I are chopsticks. There is no fork or knife. There is no guy or girl role."—u/SchrodingsClit

"Same for lesbians lol. Straight man hot vs. lesbian hot is VERY different."—u/miss-swait

"And how to be friends with people in the category they are attracted to. As a lesbian, the way all my straight friends insist men and women can't be friends utterly perplexes me, and it often leads to me feeling the need to insist that I am not walking around trying to fuck all, or indeed any, of my friends lol. It is incredibly easy for me to draw a line between friends, or just women in my general vicinity, and potential partners/people I might 👀 eye up."—u/Tay74

"I've heard multiple women say their boyfriends are a green flag because they 'let them' wear whatever they want. The bar is in the underworld. When I was trying to convince myself I was straight, everything about the conventions of straight relationships made me feel sad and dread the future. Thank goodness for gayness."—u/liveandspeakthetruth

"*There are people who may think you’re an embarrassment to them, and if that’s the case, please free yourself from their toxic ass."—u/khongkhoe

"I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years, and my parents don’t know he exists, nor will they ever meet him."—u/cupidsavedpsyche

"Yup, we are inherently expected to think outside the box from a very young age, and I would argue, learn quicker that what society deems as correct or normal doesn't always have to be the case."—u/Ready_Return_5998

"Not gonna lie, sometimes I feel oddly sad about the fact that I'll never be able to spontaneously have a kid. My straight best friend was talking about a pregnancy scare she recently had. I know it's dumb, but I felt kinda left out. I feel like that's such an essential part of womanhood I'll never have."—u/betrayal_Knew

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